Buck The Bullying!
Hypnotherapy Edinburgh
Since bullies are determined to get noticed and approval it therefore seems a very good anti-dote to not give them it.
I had a friend who was married 3 times and says he does not argue with his wife. He said he just did not speak with her!
With unconditional self-acceptance and not letting other people’s actions define us we are able to not let self-esteem (positive regard) contaminate self-worth. “Self-esteem is the greatest psychological sickness known to mankind as it is conditional. It is dependent what we should do, should, say, should wear. Should hood equals shithood”! Dr Albert Ellis
We become more emotionally attractive.
Of course, support from teachers, bosses, parents etc is crucial but many bullies wish to lead the group and people within the group are sometimes fearful to stand up and stop being a sheep!
Transactional Analysis
Speaks of three alleged ego states that we as humans have. Parent-Adult-Child.
Good communication is when it is done at an adult-to-adult level. However, whether it be, bullying or interpersonal relationships. TA is a good model to help you understand what is occurring with human communication.
Sometimes a person will take the moral high ground or become a punitive parent and try and put the adult into child, sometimes the child will then go into parent and put the other person into child.
Being firm and polite, we hope that the other person will join us in adult.
If we also look at the assertive model where people can go from passivity to aggression the middle ground is assertive i.e. if you are expressing yourself in a firm polite manner and the other person does not like that that is their issue.
Spending more time in adult and assertively and politely expressing self, we hope that the bully will move from the punitive parent and join us in adult and not put us into child!
Reassurance from significant others and courage are very useful tools to have in our armoury.